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What Does A Pre-Divorce Couple Look Like?

Even healthy marriages go through periods of divorce, mostly of the emotional kind. Some couples, however, are on the road to the real thing. These couples have some special ingredients. Michelle and Howard were such a couple.

Divorce is Part of Every Marriage

Understanding how and why couples go through divorce, even while staying married, helps us navigate that challenging period when it

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Diagnosis Human: How Unlocking Hidden Relationship Patterns Can Transform and Heal Our Children, Our Partners, Ourselves: Begel, Amy, Keith, David V.: 9781538182727: Amazon.com: Books

Hello Dear Readers; We are thrilled to let you know about the publication of our book, Diagnosis Human. We know

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Is Hating Your Partner Normal?

When I’m treating a couple in therapy and flashes of hate appear, I’m never worried. In fact, I’m more worried

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Teenagers as Sitting Ducks

A recent article in The New York Times dramatically chronicles the quiet mental health pandemic we are undergoing as a

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Conflict Avoidance Can Be Hazardous To Your Mental Health

Fighting in a relationship can be exhausting. Who really wants to do it? Isn’t it much nicer to have peace?

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The Magic of Finding Our Voice

“When did you lose your voice?”, I asked Paula. She said, “I know exactly when.” Paula didn’t realize that her depression had anything to do with her marriage. She thought she had a chemical imbalance. Until the therapy with the family, Paula didn’t even let herself know that she felt angry at being shut out by her self-assured husband. She had given up trying to get him to hear her, and her quiet despair and helplessness showed up as depression. As the therapy unearthed these patterns, she discovered her voice. Her mood lifted.

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Relationship Imbalance Instead of Chemical Imbalance

For the last thirty years ago a story has been built up about depression that it’s caused by a “chemical

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De-coding a Defiant Teen’s Message to his Family

I had seen the Franklin family for about three sessions on zoom, and I still didn’t really have a handle

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