Conflict Avoidance Can Be Hazardous To Your Mental Health
Fighting in a relationship can be exhausting. Who really wants to do it? Isn’t it much nicer to have peace?
Category: Men
Bringing Life To A Dead Marriage
Curiously, one of the commonest causes of chronic marital dissatisfaction is the spouses’ tendency to be over-cautious with their partner. They have fights or disagreements, but don’t go far enough. So the patterns that can make a marriage feel dead stay stuck. Here’s a way to change that.
Divorce Is Part Of Every Marriage
All marriages have divorce built into them. Often, though, we end up re-marrying the same person. This is a powerful–and painful –process necessary for growth, both as a couple and as individuals. In this post, Dave talks about some of the dynamics in marriage that help us understand this universal phase in the life of a couple.
Help For A Shut-Down Man
Therapist Avi Klein wrote about the shame many men feel about their emotions, particularly feelings that expose a sense of vulnerability. We see men like that often in therapy with couples. Here’s a case of how one man allowed himself to be un-masked, and how it transformed the couple’s relationship.
Men in Therapy: Dealing With The #MeToo Movement, and Themselves
In his thoughtful Op-Ed from The New York Times, psychotherapist Avi Klein reflects on the men who come to him
Good Sex For (Male) Dummies
Sexual problems in a relationship, including erectile dysfunction, typically reflect a more subtle dysfunction in the underlying dynamic of the couple. Helping the guy to become less cautious with his wife can be a powerful libido-stimulator
Two Types of Problem Husband
Difficult Husbands seem to come in two brands: The Overly-Cautious Guy and the Know-It-All. These guys often look good on the surface, but they can spell trouble in a relationship. Here are some thoughts on what makes these guys tick, and how they inadvertently stand in the way of real intimacy.
“Toxic Masculinity”
Amy: In this Op-Ed from The New York Times, writer Jared Sexton beautifully captures what he calls the “toxic masculinity”
More Musings On “The Nice Man”
Amy: Part of my attraction to the video “What Nice Men Don’t Say to Nice Women” (see post from 9/5)
Reflections On the Nice Quiet Man
Dave and Raluca Jacono (Raluca is a wonderful therapist/ friend of DK): We both responded similarly to the Nice Man video. ( See