Here is a second session from the family with “enforced togetherness” where one member is what I call “insane”; locked inside sanity, locked in unbending, pathological sanity.
Enforced “togetherness” in families, though largely unconscious, emerges in the way a family tells its story. It is not a unity which augments family spirit, it restricts. The restriction serves a purpose for some. The need for protection is motivated by a history of trauma or too much despair. But often a family member, usually a child, may be sacrificed to maintain this appearance of group unity.
Here’s a first session with a “misbehaving” boy that reflects the corrosive effect of “enforced unity” in families
Dave and Raluca Jacono (Raluca is a wonderful therapist/ friend of DK): We both responded similarly to the Nice Man video. ( See
ADHD in Kids: Our family therapy view of behavior problems in kids looks at some of the hidden pattern in parenting that can contribute to these problems. Good to know. Then change is possible.
Dave: In an earlier post, Defiance in the Family: A Rebellion in the Name of Health, I described our idea
Amy: Here’s another small reflection from Alain de Botton’s The School of Life. My only additional thought is that we
Dave: The birth of the baby represents a quantum jump in intimacy and the complexity of living. There is a
Dave: In my view the depressed person is often the emotionally healthiest or better, the most emotionally adequate member of
The extra-marital affair, or an affair which occurs in any committed relationship, ranks as one of the most traumatic events in the lives of an intimate couple. The sexual violation and, more than that, the dishonesty and betrayal make the recovery process a fragile one.